This article was written by Stefania Rigo, the new Red Bench Steering Committee Chair

About four years ago, a friend invited me to a Red Bench Conversation event and lured me there by describing it as based around “civil conversation.”  I found the evening so satisfying I have attended almost every Red Bench since.

The concept of the Red Bench came from U.T. Professor Dr. Betty Sue Flowers who expressed a yearning for a safe spot – like a bench painted red – where a person sitting would be signaling that he or she is ready to have a meaningful conversation from the heart.  iACT began the Red Bench: Interfaith Conversations that Matter dialogue program in 2009.

At my first Red Bench, I was at a table with people I had never met having a conversation of depth and meaning. The format continues to be a draw for me; each table has a trained volunteer host who creates a safe environment of deep reflection and listening. Strangers share from the heart and listen to each other in ways we normally are not able to do in our daily lives. We are encouraged to speak on topics that are universally meaningful in a civil manner, where we listen to each other without judgment.

Another very important aspect of the Red Bench is how diverse the attendees are.  Many faith and philosophical traditions are represented at each meeting. Participants are from many countries and walks of life.This provides a unique opportunity to learn from each other; to hear how we are different and yet universally connected by important moral, philosophical and every-day life issues.

After several months of attending I decided to become a trained host to deepen my commitment to the Red Bench and iACT.  After hosting a conversation I always feel humbled and honored to have been entrusted with this task. It is one of the most personally satisfying hours of the month!

In 2013 I was invited to attend a Red Bench Steering Committee Meeting where I was able to see how the program is growing and expanding the conversations in our community beyond the  monthly event.  This year I was honored with the task of chairing the Red Bench Steering Committee. The individuals stepping up to help with the many aspects of the growing program are leaders, creative and deep thinkers who share of themselves in selfless ways.

Attending the Red Bench has enriched my life and provided personal growth in more ways than I can express. Our community yearns for and needs this type of conversation. Will you join me on the Red Bench?  I can’t wait to listen and share.